Friday, November 6, 2009

The Search for a Keyholder

Well fellow readers of my blog, I gotta say the search for a suitable keyholder is a lot more difficult than I thought. It seems that locked guys generally fall into three categories, guys that are locked by their wives, guys that are real slaves/subs and guys that are self locked. At the moment, I fall in the third category there being self locked at the moment.

I gotta say, I'm ready, I'm more than ready actually to have a keyholder. I've tried a few arrangements, but they didn't really work out. Yes, I've had several offers, and a few demands :), to have my keys and I have turned them down. I'm not some sissy crossdresser into femming, and I'm not a slave. Sure, I have my sub tendencies from time to time, but fact of the matter is all in all I'm just a pretty average guy. In day to day life I'd be indistinguishable from any other ordinary guy, excepting the fact that my underwear is made of metal and it locks. I want to keep it that way.

I know what I want, I just can't find it. I want someone that cares enough about the real me to want to keep me locked. If that person wants to unlock me and useme for their pleasure, then I will thank them for the opportunity, though I shall not seek it. I want a relationship that is based on a mutual respect. I will not tolerate being called "boi" or "slave" or any other derogatory term and I will not address someone as "Sir" "Master/Mistress", etc, unless they have proven worthy of it and even then not in a public setting.

Why is it that there just aren't many regular people out there? So I'll say this, if you are a "Normal" person, around my age category who want's to get to know me, and perhaps some day hold my key, let me know. There's gotta be someone around me locally that fits this criteria, I don't think I'm being too picky, I just want to find the right person.


  1. Good luck @Cbeltguy, and wish me the same, but with lots of cuddling...

  2. Good luck, I wish you all the best with that.

  3. drop me an email @ if you want to talk about this possibility further

  4. I feel exactly the same as you. I enjoy the tightness and continued pleasure of chastity, but am in no way a "slave" or "worthless" as some others have described themselves. Regular guy that likes kink.

    You're not alone, others like us are out there. Now where in the hell are all the keyholders that like guys like us??? :)


  5. What does it mean to be a normal person? :)

    What you are looking for is out there. I have a relationship with my husband where he keeps me locked up not because he gets off, but because I do, and he respects me enough and wants to make me happy enough to keep me locked up even when it is inconvenient for him.

    Keep the faith. You'll find what you are looking for.

  6. Are you still locked?

  7. Have you any opinios on the CB-6000 Male Chastity Kit?

    Or could you offer any advice as I offer a Tease and Denail service to a client.

    Thank you and hope you get the time to for some tips.

    Great posts btw.

    Louise x

  8. @ Louise Lloyd;

    I'm not really a huge fan of the CB-xxxx series. I've tried two of them, a cb-2000 which I got 8 years ago (almost as soon as I could legally buy one) and a cb-3000. I haven't tried the cb-6000, and while I'm sure it's an improvement, I never found them comfortable, nighttime erections were painful and pullout was possible. Those devices for most men will not prevent masturbation, but at least make it a bit more difficult. Personally I think the my-steel belt that I have now is a major improvement, though I know it can be cost prohibitive for some, especially those that are new to the idea of chastity play.

  9. so it's been a year since you've posted this, and you haven't posted anything else in the interim.

    how are you doing? have you found what you're looking for? have you given up hope?

    i hope all is well.

  10. Hi Cbeltguy!! Even me i don't like the idea of being a slave. I've got my own style and i have to do what i want,even though i love the chastity pleasure.

  11. I thought I was the only one! I consider myself masculine and I even prefer to "top" but I like the idea of not having access to my cock. I don't want to beg on my knees for anything. Now my only dilemma is whether to bring this topic up to by boyfriend...

  12. If you're still there and looking, send me a note: we have similar mindsets.