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Friday, November 6, 2009

The Search for a Keyholder

Well fellow readers of my blog, I gotta say the search for a suitable keyholder is a lot more difficult than I thought. It seems that locked guys generally fall into three categories, guys that are locked by their wives, guys that are real slaves/subs and guys that are self locked. At the moment, I fall in the third category there being self locked at the moment.

I gotta say, I'm ready, I'm more than ready actually to have a keyholder. I've tried a few arrangements, but they didn't really work out. Yes, I've had several offers, and a few demands :), to have my keys and I have turned them down. I'm not some sissy crossdresser into femming, and I'm not a slave. Sure, I have my sub tendencies from time to time, but fact of the matter is all in all I'm just a pretty average guy. In day to day life I'd be indistinguishable from any other ordinary guy, excepting the fact that my underwear is made of metal and it locks. I want to keep it that way.

I know what I want, I just can't find it. I want someone that cares enough about the real me to want to keep me locked. If that person wants to unlock me and useme for their pleasure, then I will thank them for the opportunity, though I shall not seek it. I want a relationship that is based on a mutual respect. I will not tolerate being called "boi" or "slave" or any other derogatory term and I will not address someone as "Sir" "Master/Mistress", etc, unless they have proven worthy of it and even then not in a public setting.

Why is it that there just aren't many regular people out there? So I'll say this, if you are a "Normal" person, around my age category who want's to get to know me, and perhaps some day hold my key, let me know. There's gotta be someone around me locally that fits this criteria, I don't think I'm being too picky, I just want to find the right person.

Sunday, November 1, 2009

Finally wore the My-Steel to the Gym!

I am very happy to say that I finally got up the nerve to wear my chastity belt to the gym. A little history, I joined the gym finally back in August since I really am trying to get in better shape since I do need to do that. Anyway, all this time I did not wear the cb to the gym, I was afraid that it would chafe, that it would be noticeable and it would impede my workout so up until this point, I would always unlock myself right before going to the gym and immediately lock back up once I got home. I'll be honest, this didn't always work. When the belt is off, that's when temptation is at it's greatest, and unfortunately a few times that I did this, I gave into temptation and rubbed one out.

I know that if I find a keyholder, the whole removing the belt several times a week for the gym is going to be difficult, if not impossible. This would leave two options, either not go to the gym, or not stay chaste. Neither of these are really acceptable options.

Today, I finally got up the courage to wear it to the gym, and I'm extremely happy to say that it worked out just fine. I figured I'd try it out today since generally on Sunday's it's pretty empty, not sure why I thought that would be a factor, but whatever. My main thought was how to prevent chafing, and here's what I did. Before I left the house, I spread a healthy amount of A&D ointment around the usual trouble spots, donned one of my tightest pairs of briefs, put in a Depend Male Guard as well. Yes, I do wear these guards on a daily basis to prevent any drips whch are a problem for me, but the guard also has the added benefit of curving itself around the crotch shield creating a barrier between the metal edges of the shield and my thighs. If I do this with tight briefs, it seems to work pretty well. As an added measure, I wore a pair of tight cycling shorts over this, and then of course a pair of loose nylon shorts over that. I wore the shorts that have a drawstring, and I tied it rather tight.

All of this worked out quite well, I was able to do some weights, and also most importantly, cardio. I was able to do a solid half hour on the elliptical, and I didn't have to go any slower than normal. All in all, it was not an issue at all to wear the belt to the gym, and I will continue to do so. I didn't get any chafing whatsoever either. I guess this means that I no longer have to remove the belt for this and that I can go back to true 24/7 wear, which makes me very happy :)

And for those of you who are wondering, no I did not shower at the gym, I'm not doing that in the belt since the only shower facilities are not private, they are the traditional group showers, I waited until I got home.